Why? Why do we agree with the unconstuctive (mean) things people say about us? Why do we give them more power than they already have? The power to make us, or break us. To make us question ourselves and wonder whether we’re worth it. Why do we add to this power by letting what they say influence our own thoughts? Letting their comments get us into the habit of tearing ourselves down. Deciding we might not be worth it. That we really are annoying, or “too much.”

How long has that been a worry of the female mind? Women have been told that they’re “too much” for years. Whether directly or unconsciously, it has become something we attribute to ourselves. So why do we make each other feel this way? Shouldn’t we be building each other up? Helping one another be the best we can be and building up the fact that we are not “too much.” We are perfect. The person you are is perfect.

But how often do you really, truly actually feel perfect. Like you’re worth it and that you are a person people want to be around. Instead, it seems that we take to heart all the times people tell us we’re annoying (whether in a constructive way or not) and let that define us. Before too long we’re thinking, “I’m annoying why would anyone want to hang out with me?” And this, this is the root of it. As e.e. cummings wrote,

“here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide”
-“i carry your heart with me”

We hope with all our hearts, we inherently hope, that no one will find us annoying or “too much.” That we will be liked and accepted and sought out. We so desperately want people to seek us out to hang out. So why let what others say about us keep us under wraps? Why don’t we see their petty comments for what they are? A projection of their own low self-esteem.

So this week try something new. Pourquoi ne pas vous monter en flèche? Why don’t you soar? Confident in yourself and in the person you were made to be.

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